“I CAN’T STAND these damn computers. Useless pieces of crap!” That’s how I was thinking and feeling today.
Know why?
Because both my desktop computer and laptop were acting up. Usually if one is buggin’ out the other is working just fine. Not today.
Needless to say, I was pissed off.
What I noticed is that when I got pissed about the computers I started getting…
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Self-esteem refers to how we see ourselves. A child with healthy self-esteem feels good and is equipped to deal with life’s challenges. Parents play a vital role in developing a child’s self-esteem. Here are some practical tips for boosting your child’s self-esteem.
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Author: C. Om
The majority of people in the world today would answer this question with a resounding, “NO.” As a result, the majority of people in the world are not totally happy and are no where near their potential.
The feeling of unfulfillment from not being where you think you could, should, or would be; is all the result of what you think ! It is the idea of what isn’t happening for you right now that is causing all the stress.
If you think you should be making more money or you would rather be living in another place; you are in resistance to what is . If you think that your friend, your spouse, significant other, or your child should be a lot more of the way you think they could be; you are in resistance to what is . If you think you should have a better job, a better house, or a better car; you are in resistance to what is .
When I say resistance to what is ; it is not a call for complacence or to settle for less. It is more of a call for you not to be in denial of your reality. Once what is , is accepted and adapted to; it leaves the space for true change to take place. Without acceptance; adaptation is impossible.
True change can only be affected when you acknowledge what is and move with it. Could you walk or drive without acknowledging your terrain? You probably could for a moment. After that, you would have taken a fall, if walking. If driving; you would have caught a bad accident. Being in the moment and acknowledging life in the present is the best and only way to truly adapt to what is .
As a result of not holding on to the heavy baggage of what “should be,” you are free to adapt to the present; uncovering the gift that it truly is. Are you exactly where you should be? YES! If you take this attitude to heart; you will find a new freedom in life that was always there. It was simply covered by the ideas of what “should be.”
Are you exactly where you should be? YES! How can you argue with reality? If you believe in a higher power; how can it be wrong? If you do not believe in a higher power; how can your philosophy or perspective be wrong? No matter how you look at life; there is an order to the way things work. If you are not exactly where you are supposed to be; then your perspective of everything else you know is wrong.
Are you exactly where you should be? YES! And now that you realize this; you can really be where you are so that you may affect true change. You do not have to be stuck in the past. You do not have to be anxious about the future. You can be here now. You can enjoy right now. You can make change right now. If not now; then when?
Are you exactly where you should be? Hell yeah!
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/are-you-exactly-where-you-should-be-707810.html
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AUTHOR: Motivational, inspirational, and spiritual; self-help instructor C. Om specializes in teaching real people how to eliminate stress and suffering from their lives. To get instant access to his powerful and yet simple solutions for a great and rewarding life right now, regardless of your life situation, visit: the daily blog What Is Really Good?
Author: C. Om
Fear, pain, and stress are almost synonymous. They are all resistance to what reality is right now. They are all ways for us to interpret the experience we are having in that moment as something that should not be. They are all defensive modes of being that are actually there to protect us.
Think about it yourself. Don’t take my word for it. Think about you own experience of fear. What is it really? What does it come from? What is the relationship with pain? What is the relationship to stress?
Here is an excerpt from my book, “What Is Really Good?” on the topic: The root of all stress is fear. Of course fear is a survival instinct. It is imprinted on the design of your ego (your sense of ‘I’) to motivate you to take protective action.
This is true for both physical and mental stress. Physical stress is physical pain; subtle or blatant. It is a signal that something is wrong and to remove yourself from the situation. Mental stress is mental pain; subtle or blatant. It is a signal that the situation does not meet the ego’s definition of well being. In both cases fear is the motivating factor that brings the signal of stress/pain.
Physical fear is always short lived and only comes from a direct physical threat. Mental fear is the real issue. It is at times mistaken for physical fear and it is actually over 99% of the fear you experience. The fear produced by your mind attempting to keep the ego and its many identifications in a state of well being is produced at disproportionate and dysfunctional levels.
Fear is supposed to keep us safe. Problem is, it has gone way past doing for us what it does for the animals. A wild animal gets scared; they fight or take flight. Then it is complete. A person fears about the future and stresses about the past. A person holds on to fear like a ball and chain.
Ironically, the fact that the animal doesn’t hold on to the fear after the cause of it, is the same reason that we are so much more advanced. Their minds can not hold the ideas and concepts that ours can. As a result, their egos can not identify with ideas as ours can. Their only sense of identity is their physical selves and maybe offspring. Our egoic identity spreads as far as our concepts and ideas can take us. My stuff, my money, my house, my country, my business, etc. Our fear is magnified by the identifications.
To live without fear; live without stress; and minimize all physical pain is not as far off as you might think. As a matter of fact, you hold the key right now. It just needs some attention.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/stress-management-articles/you-scared-have-no-fear-707812.html
About the Author:
AUTHOR: Motivational, inspirational, and spiritual; self-help instructor C. Om specializes in teaching real people how to eliminate stress and suffering from their lives. To get instant access to his powerful and yet simple solutions for a great and rewarding life right now, regardless of your life situation, visit: the daily blog What Is Really Good?
Author: C. Om
There is some part of you that this statement resonates with. There is a part of you that already knows this to be true. There is nothing egoic or boastful about this knowing. It is simply knowing a fact. It is a feeling. You’re the best!
Ever wonder why or how we can have this unexplainable feeling despite all the billions of people in the world? Regardless of our size, abilities, or position in life; there is a part of you that can glimpse that feeling of resonance of being the best; of being special.
Everyone is special. To some, it sounds cliché. It sounds politically correct or idealistic. “How can everyone be special? If everyone was special; they wouldn’t be considered special because it would be the norm.” Or, “If everyone is special; why do some people have more than others? Why do some people do more than others?”
The true reason for this feeling or intuitive knowledge of being special has much less to do with what you have, what you do, or who you think you are. It has much more to do with the consciousness that perceives those things. It is your consciousness that allows those things to exist for you.
We probably hear that we are special more when we are children than any other time during life. At one time or another, most people, easily thought of themselves as the center of the universe. This was not a conscious thought. It was more of a perspective of reality. As children this concept is easy to assume as you are catered to, nurtured, and encouraged. The unlimited potential of children is acknowledged by parents, guardians, and teachers alike, as they tell the children that they can be anything that they would like to be when they grow up.
The concept of being the best is being acknowledged in most children even if unconsciously. It is that space of infinite possibilities, which is the true essence of our consciousness, that is being acknowledged.
As adults, at times it maybe harder to see. But it is still there, never-the-less. As long as you are breathing and conscious; you are the best. Even after you are not physically here; you will continue to be the best.
The best is the higher power within in you. It can never leave you because it is what remains when all else is taken away. It is you.
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You’re the BEST!
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/youre-the-best-707819.html
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AUTHOR: Motivational, inspirational, and spiritual; self-help instructor C. Om specializes in teaching real people how to eliminate stress and suffering from their lives. To get instant access to his powerful and yet simple solutions for a great and rewarding life right now, regardless of your life situation, visit: the daily blog What Is Really Good?
Author: C. Om
Though it’s one of the best lines of this past summer’s blockbuster movie, “The Dark Knight;” “Why so serious,” is also a really good question that most people might like to ask themselves.
Why do we take certain things so seriously? What is it about those particular topics that gets us so worked up and stressed out?
Alot of times we can take a step back and say to ourselves, “Is it really that serious?” or even know right from the jump that, “It’s not that serious.”
So really; why so serious? If you look at your own ‘serious’ reactions and those of others you know; you will see that it is always the things that people are ego identified with that brings the stress into the picture. In other words, it its always a concept or idea that has become part of that person’s identity which raises all the hell for them.
To illustrate this; everything that Tim considers his, is what he is ego identified with. His car, his house, his job, his wife, his bills, his retirement fund, etc. If anyone of these things is lost, comes into jeopardy, or is even slightly threatened; Tim’s very identity comes under fire. Why so serious, Tim?
This just goes to show you the power the ego has over our minds until we are totally aware of it. Once we start operating above the ego, our minds are free. We are free to be sharper and more intuitive. We are even free to cultivate and protect what we know to be ours. The difference is that the chains of stress and the burden of bondage and attachment will no longer bog us down.
Life is no where near as serious as the ego makes it out to be. As a matter of fact, that seriousness is only a mental construct fueled by the ego. It does not really exist except in your head!
Life is meant to be lived. If there is anything at all stressing you right now; think about what’s good right now. You may see that the source of the stress is but a thought and that it’s really not that serious.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/stress-management-articles/why-so-serious-707814.html
About the Author:
AUTHOR: Motivational, inspirational, and spiritual; self-help instructor C. Om specializes in teaching real people how to eliminate stress and suffering from their lives. To get instant access to his powerful and yet simple solutions for a great and rewarding life right now, regardless of your life situation, visit: the daily blog What Is Really Good?
Author: Deborrah Cooper
Before a man can truly love a woman, his respect for her must be at level 8 or above (on a scale of 1-10). But even before a man can truly love and respect you, you must love and respect YOURSELF!
Remember, like is drawn to like.
To have high self esteem means to feel competent and worthy, to respect and stand up for your interests and needs and to cope with the challenges of life.
Those with high self-esteem are ambitious and embrace their experiences in life emotionally, creatively, and spiritually. The higher our self esteem, the more likely we are to treat others with respect, kindness and consideration since we do not perceive them as a threat to our peace of mind or security.
On the other hand, having low self esteem means that you suffer from feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, self-doubt, guilt, and fear. You are more likely to enter into destructive relationships. You may recognize that in the back of your mind a nasty little voice constantly reminds you that you are “not enough.”
Those with low self-esteem may also be arrogant, boastful, or overstate their abilities in an attempt to “puff themselves up.” Those with low self-esteem frequently attempt to glorify themselves at the expense of others by verbally discounting, mistreating, or physically abusing them in an effort to feel more powerful or elevate themselves.
Know When to Get Out or Just Say NO!
How we feel about OURSELVES affects virtually every aspect of our lives – from the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to the way we operate as parents. And (excluding mental, emotional or physical problems that are biological in origin) most of the social ills and personal problems we suffer originate in an environment of low self esteem: alcohol and drug abuse, underachievement, spousal battering, child molestation, sexual dysfunction, emotional immaturity, suicide, and setting ourselves up to be used.
For those of you that call yourself having a man but still spend important holidays alone; have a man that you have been dating for years that refuses to marry you; have a man in your life that doesn’t open doors or pull out your chair for you or treat you like a lady; or have a husband that cheats whenever he gets ready with no fear of repercussions – know that somewhere down the line you have failed one or more of his tests.
If your man has changed in his treatment towards you and no longer treats you as special and important as he did previously that means he is probably not ready to leave the relationship completely yet, but he has already moved you out of the running as a serious contender for his affections. In his mind he already decided that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere.”
He may feel he does not have to treat you like a lady because in some way you have disappointed him and convinced him that you don’t deserve to be treated with high regard.
In these cases, I would recommend that you recognize this relationship will NEVER fulfill your needs. No matter how painful the loss may seem, it is best to abandon that relationship and start fresh with another man.
Take Responsibility For Your Choices and Become a Winner in the Game of Love!
We make choices every day of our lives. Admittedly, some of the choices we make are not in our best interest over the long run. Perhaps these imprudent choices are dictated, not by thoughtful respect for ourselves, but instead by the desire for immediate gratification, a sense of desperation, a refusal to accept reality, or plain old low self esteem.
And even though (as stated by Carl Jung) “The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases,” it is my firm belief that a woman who thought highly of and valued herself, her sexuality and her heart would not engage in the behaviors associated with being a ‘ho.
By using the tests outlined above as a guideline, you can quickly determine where you have been going wrong in your dealings with men and adjust your program accordingly to develop the relationship of your dreams.
By behaving in a way that commands respect from the men you meet, you will win the right man’s respect, admiration, heart and ultimately his undying devotion.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/the-importance-of-female-selfesteem-in-healthy-relationships-585882.html
About the Author:
(c) 2008 Deborrah Cooper. Deborrah has authored dozens of relationship articles and advice columns on Ask HeartBeat! , which focuses on modern relationships for teens and adults. Her dating guide Sucka Free Love! provides street-smart, hilarious insight into the toughest issues facing singles today. Check out The Sucka Free Dating Radio Talk Show on Wednesday night at 7:00 pm PST.
